What a Man Thinks, He Becomes.

by on August 25, 2012

I have been studying the power of positive thinking and creating your own reality. I stumbled upon a move called “The Secret” it’s on Netflix and I highly recommend it! At first I thought to myself, “This is another one of those silly self-help things that is making the director a ton of money from people who feel helpless and think that this person’s idea will save their life. When in reality the originator of this idea is on their third marriage and teeters on the verge of bankruptcy all the time do to their quick money schemes. The true skill of most of these people is their ability to sell an idea and make others believe. Now don’t get me wrong, anything that inspires you to do more with your life or find the confidence within is worthwhile in every way!!! I just feel bad for the people who are endlessly reading these self-help books looking for a way out of their misery to no avail. This movie however was different.

It may have a lot of the same fluff that other self-help teachings do and perhaps it was just me that saw it differently, but for whatever reason it sparked a two month journey for me into the power of our thoughts. I’ve read dozens of books and watched a hand full of movies all following the practical application of creating your reality. I want to share some things that really have changed the way I take on the world and if you feel so inclined you may find yourself on your own journey…

The first thing that impressed me was how many great thinkers throughout history have made comments relating to our minds creation of reality:

“In the magical universe there are no coincidences and there are no accidents. Nothing happens unless someone wills it to happen.” – William S. Burroughs

“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” – Mahatma Gandhi

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.” – Buddha

“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” – Albert Einstein

“Whether you think you can or you can’t ether way your right.” – Henry Ford

“You create your own universe as you go along.” – Winston Churchill

This idea seems simple at first but with deeper reflection I started to see the magnitude of the concept. You see if you wake up every day and think, for example, “I’m fat” then your actions throughout the day are going to be that of a fat person. You already decided that’s what you are. Even more so you repeat this thought about yourself every time you look in the mirror, every time you put on cloths that don’t fit right, every time someone who you think is attractive doesn’t pay you any attention. You think in your head “I’m fat, that is why all this happens….” POOR YOU!!!!!! Who needs enemies with a brain like that right?!!!!

Ok so let’s stop and think about this. You ever meet someone who wasn’t the most attractive person but as soon as you talked to them their humor, their enthusiasm, their love of life just made you adore them! It’s true! When we meet someone who just exudes great energy we are drawn to them. Even more than that, these people with great energy, it seems things just always work out for them right? Do you see where I’m going with this? Your outlook changes your behavior. If you are feeling down about yourself others can feel it. You may even treat others harshly because you are so angry at yourself for not being the person you wish you could be. This is what people are reacting to. Even more so, half of them think your behavior is because THEIR not good enough!!!!!!!!

Let’s change our thinking! What if you woke up and you forced your brain to say, “You are beautiful.” What if every time you even started to think something bad about yourself you replaced it with, “I’m wonderful because…” (Does this all sound like mushy lovey silly crap to you? Ok ok but stay with me, it did to me at first too. I told you I’m two months into this and it’s important so keep reading.) Controlling your thoughts IS NOT EASY! I was just as surprised by how many negative thoughts I had and how hard it was to stop them as I was when I actually started to see changes in my life that proved this worked!

If you start everyday thinking great thoughts about yourself and take a moment to reflect on everything you should be thankful for you start to change your attitude. Instead of thinking, “I’m fat” you start to say, “Thank you for all the parts of my body that are working well.” You say thank you for your beautiful smile or sparkling eyes. You know you have at least one part of your body that you think is great, start there. Then just be grateful that your heart is beating, your lungs are breathing and you get this day to grow more beautiful. If you continue these thoughts all day your actions WILL change. I guarantee you that you are not going to find yourself at home on your couch stuffing your face with all the foods you know aren’t good for you. You love yourself too much and because you were in such a great mood all day you made plans with a friend and you’re out having a fun time meeting even more friends who think you’re fantastic because you’re so full of life.

So now you’re getting the idea right? Your thoughts do become you, what you focus on becomes reality even if it is things you hate. Change your focus, change your life. Be grateful for what you already have and more good things will come your way. I will say that this is not as easy as it sounds, which actually is what gave me more faith that it would work. Every time things didn’t go the way I wanted my first thought was, “This doesn’t work” or “See this is what happens when I get my hopes up.” Then I had to stop and think, “No! This thought is my problem! Get rid of it!!!!” I had to change my thinking and focus on what good came out of the situation. What did I learn from things not going the way I expected? Perhaps it wasn’t the best option, be patient and something better will come. Now patience and I are not two things that go together so this was a struggle!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh my god, you have no idea! To just accept the things I cannot change? To let people behave however they want and not try to change them or react negatively to anything they do. That was so hard for me. But you know what? I learned two things:

1- I was not kind. I jumped to conclusions about what people where thinking and why they behaved the way they did and then I reacted harshly because I was hurt or mad. When I refused to have a negative thought it became impossible to be mad. This led to me just not reacting and letting things be as they were. And that my friends led to me seeing more than I’ve ever seen… a lot of times I was wrong. What I thought had provoked the action of another was not at all the cause and like anything else it usually had little to do with me at all. You see I was acting out and hurting people because MY feelings were hurt or I didn’t get what I wanted. But when I was kind the truth came out slowly and everything worked out anyway. WOW! Ok so it’s easier to be patient day by day because I’m seeing the rewards, what could have been a fight ended up teaching me a virtue….I created my reality. I chose the experience. WOWWWWWW!!!!

2- I was insecure. I thought about why my first reaction was to be angry or tough when things went wrong. Deep down inside this was coming from disappointment and disappointment came from a feeling of not being good enough or unfairness. The old “What is wrong with me? Why do others have it so much better” thoughts. These thoughts had to go! When they did I found myself on a whole new plane. I can’t put in words what it feels like. I have always battled feelings of insecurity and major social anxiety (yes I know what you’re thinking, but it’s true). Every time I was around people I kept playing thoughts in my head of “I’m not as good as them, they probably think I’m ugly or fat or ….” What I had never realized is that this was making me put a wall up to people. I was already defensive against them and I would even treat them like less than me to make myself appear better. I don’t need to tell you how poorly this was working. I was stuck in a cycle of friendships with people being very hard for me and I didn’t know why. As soon as I rid myself of the negative thoughts and replaced them with thoughts of what I appreciated the other person for everything changed. I started to really see people and like them. I started to feel calm in public because I was grateful for others instead of terrified of them. The most amazing thing? People didn’t hurt me, they treated me better than ever!!!! I’ve made more friends and have more open relationships. Respecting yourself is the first step to truly respecting others.

Well there you have it! Just one area of my life that has changed with the power of my own thoughts but this will work on every area of your life. This is only a taste of what you can learn so if you are intrigued I would check out the movie “The Secret” and the book “The Magic” which has 28 days of practices to change your thought process. If you want to learn more on how thoughts affect our bodies I came across another great documentary that blew my mind “What the #$*! Do We Know”.  If you think all this is crazy talk and you like your life the way it is than be my guest!  I won’t think a single bad thing about you because it wouldn’t do any good anyway 😉

Sending positive thoughts your way,
Foxy

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3 Responses to “What a Man Thinks, He Becomes.”

  • Jade says:

    One of my girlfriends read the book and she loved it. I still haven’t gotten around to reading it, but since I just started my Blockbuster @Home subscription, I’ll be sure to add the movie to my queue since they have all sorts of titles. I’m so glad that I fell upon your blog because it’s great to see that there are other people out there who are learning that having a positive mentality will only create positivity in our futures. I’ll have to send one of my friends who I work with at Dish here because I think he’ll greatly benefit from your words. Have you ever read The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho? I think it’d interest you to read it since it’s along the lines of believing in a future that you desire in order for it to come true.

    • says:

      Thank you Jade! It’s really good to hear from another positive thinker!!!! I have not read The Alchemist but I will take your advice and go get it 🙂

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